The question is: if you have been living with the girl for 3 years, why are you not married? Their assumption that maybe you wanted to bring her to American and finally marry there is logical. As reflected by the visa denial.

If you are serious about marriage, and about visiting the USA together, your best approach would be to marry in China. Then a long time after, when it is firmly established that even after marriage you still remain in China, then at that time try for another visitor visa.

To be granted the visa, US immigration must be convinced that your wife is not planning to try to remain permanently in the US once she arrives here.

The US government will gladly issue tourist visas to Chinese who are well off, and can demonstrate they have strong ties to China, like great jobs, or real estate. Basically to people that immigration is confident will only visit for a while, then return right back to where they came from.

As you are a US citizen, and you are the one to accompany your wife, I suggest you prepare a letter to be attached to the application that explains the situation and what your plans are.

In your letter you should explain:

How long you have been resident in China.

Your intention to continue to remain indefinitely, permanently in China with your wife.

Confirm that you understand the requirement for, and will DEFINITELY apply via normal official channels for a spousal visa, if immigration to the USA becomes the plan later.

Confirm you just would like to have a short visit in the USA, to visit family and would like your wife to accompany you.

If you have both names on a lease, I would attach that document

If you have a permanent residence visa to China, I would include proof of that as well.

I’m 29, she’s 26.

She started staying at my apartment after we’d known each other for about 4 months, then she “moved in”. We have since moved to a larger apartment together.

This is more or less the normal Hollywood romance situation, we met at our jobs, we were friends first, then started dating, then started spending almost all our time together, and now we are engaged to be marry. It would be no problem at all to prove our genuine relationship. My mother has even come to China to meet her (with photo proof).

I just want to take her to America to visit. How can I do it?

Thanks!

I want to take my fiance to America with me to visit my country and meet my friends. I say “take” because I have been living in China for the last 3 years (I met my fiance here 2 years ago in person, not online or anything) and plan to live here for more or less the rest of my life. However, I still have a lot of ties to America, and I would like to show my fiance my country the way she has shown me hers.

We DO NOT want to live in America. My fiance DOES NOT want to become a US citizen.

All we want is just to be able to visit America. We tried for the Visitor visa, but were denied because the officer thought we were trying to go to America to marry and live.

I would like to get the fiance visa (K1), but it seems like with that you MUST marry and live in America. Again, we DO NOT want that.

So what can we do? Any advice would be appreciated.

Each US consulate hires local staff, who are knowledgeable of the local culture. These local experts are asked to decide what appears to be “culturally normal” and what is not. When they feel that your relationship is outside the normal range, your petition will attract extra scrutiny.

Recall what the reaction of your friends and family were when you first told them about your new boy friend and of the age difference. What do you think was going through their minds? Were they thinking “perfect, lucky you”, “that is a good match”, “ok”, “maybe it will work”, “that is odd”, “surprised”, “amazed, or “shocked”. The local consular officers will probably feel the same way.

Good luck with your petition.